Ultimately, the road to character is a confrontation with oneself. This requires a healthy dose of both realism and idealism. We have to see the reality of how we show up in the world against the backdrop of who we know ourselves to truly be. There will most probably always be a gap between how we show up and who we truly are. How we handle that gap is the basis of the confrontation with self that builds character. Do we settle: That’s the best I can do? Or, do we strive to do better?